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By Michael Cobb
http://www.be-a-better-you.com

7 Incredible Lifesaving Tips to Manage Your Anger

Experiencing anger is extremely dangerous to your health. It
causes your adrenaline and blood pressure to rise up at above
normal levels. Moreover, you could end up hurting someone or
doing something that you will regret later on.

Here are 7 fantastic tips to help you be the one in control of
yourself, and not the hazardous madman called "Anger."

1) Relax and visualize.

Calm yourself down. Take a deep breath. As you exhale, imagine
all those bottled-up fury come out of your nose and mouth.
Release it and be free. Repeat this step over and over until
you feel peace inside.

Then visualize being in a place where you feel most happy, calm,
and relaxed. It may be a place like a beach, garden, scenic
locations, or anywhere else you might think of. Just imagine
being there and inhaling the essence of your serene environment.
By doing this, you will not find it hard to attain inner peace.

2) Pour out your anger to safe outlets.

You had a big quarrel with your former friend. He betrayed your
trust. You want vengeance and you're raving mad.

Hold it. Restrain yourself.

Try your best to get away from him as far as you can. You don't
want to hurt anyone. Anger can possess your brain into doing
something that you wouldn't dare do before.

How do you then release your anger if you can't restrict it
anymore?

Buy a punching bag, then pour out all your rage in it. Punch it,
kick it, strangle it. Imagine the punching bag is your enemy.
When you're done, you will feel a sense of satisfaction. You may
even punch and kick through thin air if you desire.

Another way to release it is "SHOUT!" Find a distant place where
you can be alone - a place where no one can hear you. At the top
of your voice, yell out loud "Aaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrgggggghhhhhhh."
You can choose any word you like as long as you release all those
angry demons out of your chest.

3) Forgive and forget.

Nothing could ease your mental and emotional pains better than
by forgiving someone that has hurt you in the past. It is very
unhealthy to burden yourself with unnecessary torture brought
about by unpleasant memories of other people's demeaning acts.

Moreover, if they have taken something important away from you,
would it make sense to also sacrifice your health and lifestyle?
Of course not.

4) Exercise.

Engaging in exercises increases your endorphins. Your angry
mood could miraculously change to a happy one if you get involved
in exercises that you enjoy doing.

5) Have a circle of "sponge" friends.

Do you feel relieved when you voice out all your problems to close
friends and relatives? That's the power of voicing out your inner
feelings.

Always have someone to talk to when you're down, when you're
depressed, when you're mad, or in any other occasion when you feel
you have to get the thorns out of your chest.

6) Listen to soothing music.

It calms your soul. A 20 minute session of listening to relaxing
music while resting comfortably could soothe the upset spirit.
Take deep breaths often.

7) Pray.

Deadly consequences arise when people could not hold back their
fury. Ask for guidance that you will be able to control your temper.
Prayers bring inner peace to those who ask for it.

There you have it - 7 essential rules to release yourself from the
treacherous killer known as "Anger." Manage your anger, save your
life.

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Keeping your Friends

Ever encountered the phrase "friendship overload?" Some people may have this overload and we sometimes call them lucky for having many friends. But sometimes those friends only remain in the phonebook, memories, or photos. People who have "friendship overload" find it hard to keep those friends even if they want to. There are ways to keep the friendships alive, whether they are near or faraway.

Keep in touch with your friends often. For long-distance friendships, you could take advantage of email. If there is an event, like birthdays or Christmas, or even if you just want to say "hi," a card would be a nice idea. Online cards are always available on the net. For those friends who are just across your place or school, keep in touch with them by sending cards, letters, and notes. These are some of the best ways to communicate with them. Do not forget that handwritten work is more appreciated because personal touch is involved.

After getting in touch with them, some of them may respond and you might end up seeing them personally. Spend your time with your friends in a more meaningful and interesting way. This works best especially for those friends you haven't seen for a long time. Strolling at a park or watching a movie are some of the ways to have fun. Sometimes spending time with your friends becomes boring when you end up talking about each other's problems in a day. On the other hand, listening to each other's problems is not bad. In fact this is a way to keep your friendships more meaningful, by reassuring each other in both good and bad times. Having a big problem is not the only time you should see your friends. In a way, spending good times or having fun with troubled friends might eventually help them to get through their problems.

Friendship also means responsibility. They are not friends just because you need them during difficult times, or just to have more gifts come Christmas time; but because you love and appreciate them. If you are a true friend, you will always make yourself available especially during the most depressing times.

Friends play an important role in a person's life. Some say they are the extension of your family; that is, you are not blood-related but you share a deep relationship with each other. Treat your friends well, for they are worth much more than any wealth or property in the world.

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